A Look at You’re the Worst- Season 1 Finale: “Fists and Feet and Stuff”

The first season of You’re the Worst comes to a close with the final episode: “Fists and Feet and Stuff.”  We saw everyone previously trying to do some growing-up, or something close to it.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Jimmy types in his bed

Well, almost.  Jimmy tries to masturbate, but can’t get to completion…

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Edgar lives out of a car

Edgar is living out of a car…

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay's day drinking

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay and the postal worker screw

Lindsay has become even more of a wreck that she’s day drinking and having a quickie with the postal worker…

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Gretchen makes a vegetable smoothie

But Gretchen is trying to get her life right, starting with her body.  She even goes jogging right after downing a vegetable shake.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Gretchen jogs when her guts go to shit

And it’s not until her stomach starts rumbling and her guts go to shit that she realizes this may have been a bad idea.  Well, at least only the nearby gardener knows that she shit herself.  Women can apparently shit themselves.  Who knew?

Fists and Feet and Stuff- BBQ Party invitation

However, what may bring the four together is an invite to Vernon and Becca’s barbeque.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay shows up at the party

At said barbecue, Becca wants everything to go off without a hitch, though Vernon is more concerned with his trash juice.  He’s hoping to get his friends in on this trash juice since they’re too busy being adults: one has a ton of kids and the other is a State Senator.  It’s imperative they get in on this trash juice, and I can’t say trash juice enough times.  Lindsay, meanwhile, tries to talk to Becca about her problems, but Becca doesn’t really give a shit about Becca’s cockaholism.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Jimmy never liked Becca's feet

No.  Becca is more concerned with Jimmy, who is here looking for Gretchen.  It’s worth noting that Becca didn’t intend for either of them to come.  She calls her coming to his place a lapse of sanity, but Jimmy isn’t interested in giving her the time of day.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay tries to kiss Jimmy

Lindsay certainly wants his time, though.  She tries hitting on Jimmy and even goes to kiss him, but then Gretchen enters the party and witnesses the drunken almost-kiss.  We’ll return to Jimmy in a moment.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay aghast that Jimmy was about to propose to Gretchen

When Lindsay corners Gretchen, the two clash.  Lindsay is still upset about Gretchen abandoning her and her needs, even when her only disease is that she doesn’t love her husband.  Gretchen, though, had to figure out her own shit.  She can’t do that while Lindsay sits on her shoulders like a stacked cartoon devil.  Gretchen spills about the proposal and Lindsay is livid about Jimmy’s decision.

Even still, Gretchen acknowledges that she may have had one foot out the door during this entire relationship.  Obviously.  There’s much more to this conversation that I’ll touch upon when discussing the episode as a whole.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Jimmy meets Edgar's new English roommate

Back outside, Edgar introduces Jimmy to his new English roommate…Jimmy is clearly skeptical that Edgar managed to find another Englishman in such a short amount of time so, in a moment I can’t help but laugh at, Jimmy quizzes the roommate on very specific topics, such as the Scotland situation, whether he lived in a dorm or apartment- instead of a flat- and how he feels about Coronation Street, which has been on the air since 1960, being canceled, when it isn’t.  The ruse works until the two can’t figure out where they’re living, which is in Little Nicaragua.  This is actually Tommy, the actor whom Edgar previously met at the veterans’ commemoration.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Paul does dishes and tries to ignore Lindsay

Lindsay tries to sweet-talk with Paul, but turns out that he saw her try to kiss Jimmy.  He saw her!  Paul hasn’t normally been all that assertive throughout the show’s run and it’s nice to see him stand up to Lindsay, but this isn’t his finest moment.  That comes in a bit.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Gretchen confronts Jimmy

Gretchen and Jimmy finally meet face to face for the first time since the break-up, but it’s Jimmy who ends up quickly apologizing for overstepping with Gretchen’s parents.  Huh.  How often do you get the guy saying he’s sorry first even when he knows that he’s the one in the wrong?  Anyway, Gretchen acknowledges the quick connection she and Jimmy share.  She found the whole idea crazy, but would be open to it down the line.  But then she realized that the two of them are like pit-bulls that nullify the threat of Mutually Assured Destruction.  So, after all this expectation, Gretchen’s answer is yes.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Jimmy has no idea what Gretchen is talking about

But Jimmy has absolutely no idea what Gretchen is talking about.  As it turns out, the engagement ring is the same one that Jimmy had intended for Becca, but after she shot him down, he was too embarrassed to return it.  Well, looks like Gretchen shitting herself is only the second most embarrassing to happen to her today.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Vernon and Becca anounce that they're having a baby

Wait, there’s a party going on in this episode.  Vernon and Becca announce that they’re going to have a baby.  Happy day!

Lindsay, not wanting to be stood up and already on the verge of a breakdown, suddenly announces that she’s also having a baby…soon!  Paul, though, isn’t having this and admits that he’s having an emotional affair with a woman named Amy, whom he met in a home brew chat.  Naturally.  Paul wants to begin the process of conscious uncoupling with Lindsay, which is probably the nicest way a man can ask for a divorce.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay blabs secrets

Oh, but Lindsay isn’t done yet.  She attacks Becca’s so-called perfect marriage when she tried to bang Jimmy.  Though Jimmy clarifies that Becca tried to kiss him and he turned her down, Lindsay then blabs that Jimmy went over to Becca’s place and tried to kiss her.  The woman just cannot stop talking.  But Vernon is irked by the revelation that his forever friend would do this, even though Jimmy barely knows him.  No matter, Jimmy can get to know Vernon’s episodes titles-I mean, his fists and feet and stuff.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Start of the fire at Gretchen's place

Before Jimmy shows up at Gretchen’s, it’s worth noting that Gretchen ends up starting a very tiny electrical fire with her vibrator, but she just covers it up with a pillow.  She does not put it out…

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Jimmy asks Gretchen to move in with him

When Jimmy does arrive, he admits that yes, he did choose Becca at one time and it was a stupid choice, but still a choice nonetheless.  He wants to be Gretchen’s couch buddy and offers her a key to move in- for real this time- but she smacks it away like it’s poisonous to the touch.  No.  Gretchen calls this a bullshit offer and thinks that it’s just a Hail Mary since Jimmy knew he would lose her for good, but Jimmy did intend to give her the key earlier.

His entire life has been a sad one, but she managed to floor him.  Even still, Gretchen doesn’t want to move in…yet.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Fire

Unfortunately, the two then realize that, yeah, there’s a fire, so looks like Gretchen will be moving in after all.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Gretchen moves in

The season comes to a close with our Edgar, Gretchen, and, presumably, Lindsay moving into Jimmy’s place.  Will this be for the best?  Who knows?  But that, my friends, is “Fists and Feet and Stuff.”  This episode also feels like a midlife crisis episode, but also the adult conversation episode.  Granted, almost every conversation on the show feels adult, but here it’s more in terms of our four main characters growing up and accepting some responsibility in their lives.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Gretchen and Lindsay talk about trying

And it’s not that it’s too late for them to do so because no one’s demanding that they grow up.  It’s easier to just coast through life without a care and try to mask your fear of becoming an adult.  However, you do eventually realize that adulthood is your future.  And that’s what scares people like Lindsay and Gretchen, who realize with horror that maybe trying and buying-in is worth considering.  It’s a scary realization because they’ll have to put effort into living instead of just going along for the ride.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay hurt by Gretchen's words

So here, the characters re-examine their life decisions because they need to get their shit together.  It’s not something they can force or even want to happen, but they are willing to give it a shot.  This feels like a natural progression for them throughout the show’s progression and I like how they don’t just willingly go along with it.  They still want to live that carefree life, but that comes with some responsibility.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay and Gretchen realize that they're growing up

More than that, they come to the realization that they can’t outrun the so-called ordinary lives forever.  You’ll get tired of running at some point.  Also, side-note, Lindsay thinks that this sudden realization makes her and Gretchen feminists instead of their fear of their problems.  This woman makes some of the strangest connections.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Gretchen won't move in with Jimmy...yet

The conventions of traditional relationships and love in general are still turned on their head for this season finale.  Jimmy gives a heartfelt speech to Gretchen about how his entire life he’s dealt with loneliness and suffering, but the worst draft of his life as a writer is the one without Gretchen.  It’s cheesy, but I got the feeling that Jimmy meant every word of it.  Instead of being instantly bowled over, Gretchen calls this a ploy and still refuses to move in, despite Jimmy’s good intentions.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Jimmy realizes that Gretchen thought the engagement ring was for her

In addition, there’s a lot of buildup to Gretchen accepting Jimmy’s presumed proposal.  Rather than them both saying yes and living happily ever after, only Jimmy knew that the ring was set for Becca.  The sudden shock on his face when he realizes Gretchen’s error is priceless.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay hits on Jimmy

Also, Jimmy isn’t willing to put up with any other woman’s crap if she isn’t Gretchen.  He refuses to go along with Lindsay’s drunken antics and he puts down Becca when she tries to make up for her advances, even going as far as calling her feet repulsive.  This is a man who is cynical to the end, but Gretchen is the one woman able to go toe-to-toe with him.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Gretchen and Jimmy realize their future

One of the more tender moments of the episode is when Jimmy and Gretchen make up not because it’s sweet, but because they seem so depressed that they’re actually getting together.  This is something they’ve denied and fought against for so long, slowly got drawn into it, and now that they have it, the thought of their future fills them with dread and misery.  I assume that most couples would normally look forward to a happy life together, but these two don’t even want to imagine it.

Gretchen even says with disgust in her voice that she and Jimmy are inviting a horrible life of sadness and pain that can only end badly, and that may be true, but, like Jimmy with Becca, they’re at least making a choice, which is a sign that they’re growing up because they aren’t wavering on indecision.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Gretchen and Jimmy after the fire

I also like the fact that, instead of a quick reconciliation, Gretchen still resists the idea of moving in with Jimmy.  When it comes to affairs of the heart, she’s been more resistant, I think, and despite Jimmy’s good intentions, she won’t just throw caution to the wind and commit to a life where the future holds nothing but sadness.  It’s not that simple.  But they make gradual changes.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Cat returned to book store

They even return the cat to the book store.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Jimmy and Edgar reconcile

Also, I am glad that Jimmy and Edgar reconciled, but it was a bit too fast.  It seemed to only happen because he learned about Edgar’s living situation.  Right now, they look to be back to the status quo, as Edgar probably wouldn’t be able to afford the $1200 a month for his room.  Plus, at the very least, it looks like he has Lindsay.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Lindsay threatens to start sucking dicks if Gretchen leaves

And that’s how I’ll transition over to Lindsay, who is a train wreck despite doing a pretty good cover of Kate Bush’s “This Woman’s Work.”  She has that adult life that the others detest, but she squanders it by cheating on Paul and having random flings.  She’s needy and always has to satisfy her lust.  Hell, when Gretchen tries to leave the party, the only reason she stays is because Lindsay threatens to start sucking random guy’s dicks.  Like trying to do cocaine off of her breasts, it’s both a funny and sad moment.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Becca and Lindsay argue

Lindsay is the kind of person who would never be happy because she’s constantly comparing her life to others.  She’s unhappy because she’s both the sidekick and less glamorous than Becca.  She tries to one-up her by announcing her own false pregnancy, which only incenses Paul even more and hastens their divorce.  She wanted the stress-free relationship that Jimmy and Gretchen had, but when she dives into random sex flings, she’s still not happy.  She just continues down a self-destructive path.

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Becca doesn't care about Lindsay's problems

But at least she isn’t Becca, who is as unlikable as the others, but somehow manages to make herself even worse by coming off like a pompous asshole.  She tells Lindsay to her face that she doesn’t care about her problems- given Lindsay’s state, that’s not entirely a bad thing, though- she tries to justify her advances on Jimmy, and when her party doesn’t go as perfect as she wanted, she flips out on her guests.  Also, she used the word hashtag in a sentence as if she spoke in Twitter language.  Just why?

Fists and Feet and Stuff- Jimmy and Gretchen realize that they're living together

Creator Stephen Falk fleshes out what could have been a by-the-number romantic comedy and adds weight and depth to a group of cynics who don’t know what they want in their lives. Given the strength of the performances and the no-holds bar approach it takes to relationships and love in general, You’re the Worst is one of the more memorable shows that I watched in 2014.  Despite their cynicism, Jimmy and Gretchen do come off as relatable because they don’t handle their problems in conventional ways.  Hell, I think it’s how unconventional this show is at times that made me such a fan of it.  This first season was one of the funniest and well-written batches of episodes that I’ve seen in quite some time.

I’m not a doctor, Jim, but whether you’re into romantic comedies, comedies in general, going through relationship issues, or just want a breath of fresh air when it comes to television shows tackling the subject of love, with wit and sarcasm sprinkled on top, I highly recommend FX’s You’re the Worst.  Here’s looking forward to Season Two.

A Look at You’re the Worst- Season 1, Episode 9: “Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction”

Episode Nine, “Constant Horror and Bone Deep Dissatisfaction,” is what many would call the origin story episode, and I agree with this.  I do have another name for this episode, but if I say it now, it would spell out the point of what the characters go through here, so I’ll save that for the end.

The challenge of doing an origin story in the middle of a series’ run is how to present it.  You don’t want to just overload the story with winks and nods that viewers already know about and you don’t want to just set up what we know is to come later.  You do want to show who these characters were before we got to know them, but you also want to see something new.

 Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy proposes to Becca

You’re the Worst manages to do both by showing us who Jimmy and Gretchen were before they met and how they somehow managed to impact each other’s lives, in their own, terrible ways.  Sure, Jimmy was still cynical as he was two and a half years ago as he is now, but he still had a shred of optimism to him, as we see when he proposes to Becca.  But when she shoots him down, we see, through a look on Jimmy’s face, that something about this man has changed.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy interviewed on his book

So he took all of that negative energy and cynicism and channeled it into his book.  Jimmy relishes in the temporary fame and attention he receives from a very pretentious radio host.  Jimmy describes the writing process as a combination of rage, heartbreak, and a lot of alcohol.  The truth is that life sucked for Jimmy when he was happy, but constant horror and bone deep dissatisfaction can be helpful, but not miserable.  At the very least, Jimmy found a way to turn a negative into a positive.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Lindsay and Gretchen snort cocaine

On the other hand, we have Gretchen, who still wanted to live a carefree life, full of sex, drugs, and all that fun stuff.  She can’t enjoy herself, though, because everyone around her is becoming an adult.  Lindsay even has a nice thing with a guy whose name she can’t remember.  Despite that, Gretchen thinks Lindsay should just call it off so the two of them can keep this party train going.  So even here, Gretchen isn’t someone with a lot of ambition.  She wants to remain that kid that didn’t have to deal with responsibilities.  If she’s going to go nowhere, she may as well make sure that Lindsay is right there with her.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Gretchen advises Sam, Shit Stain, and Honey Nutz on their attire

She’s still as blunt as ever, which ends up working in her benefit when she gives Sam, Shit Stain, and Honey Nutz some fashion advice: instead of dressing like your run-of-the-mill rapper, dress the way you like.  As such, Sam makes Gretchen the group’s new publicist, never mind that the new publicist is also doing drugs with the group.  Who knew it was that easy?

Again, though, her core personality is just the same as it is now.  She’s still cynical and not into the dating scene, as we see when she first encounters Ty at the film premiere.  She’s not into dating, but Ty’s persistence does manage to grab her attention.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Gretchen and Lindsay before wedding

All around Gretchen, people are growing up and maturing, but not her.  She needs to stay where she is because that’s more fun, but it will be less fun if she’s all alone.  And that extends to the symbols of adulthood.  Paul and Lindsay bought Becca and Vernon a food processor- a lesser kind than Lindsay’s, mind you- and Gretchen is bothered by the fact that people need to have these items that show they’ve grown up.  Perhaps, Paul suggests, you’re just investing in your future.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Paul meets up with Jimmy at the wedding

I suppose weddings are a part of that future.  Jimmy shows up at the wedding- with Edgar in tow, but I’ll get to him later- ready to heckle Becca.  This really is a thing of his, it appears.  Though his plan to ruin the wedding included seducing the groom’s mother, he takes a more subtle approach.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy tells Becca that they haven't made love for the last time

And it’s here that we finally learn what Jimmy said to Becca that we didn’t get to hear in the pilot: the two of them have not made love for the last time.  Not as harsh as I at first thought, but still very much a dick move.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Present day, Paul, Vernon, and Becca watch wedding video

When we come to the present, Vernon and Becca are watching the footage of their wedding.  Paul lets them know about Gretchen’s break-up, which sets Becca on a mission.  Jimmy isn’t the man that she needs or, quite frankly, wants, but now that she knows he is single, she has motivation.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy tells Edgar that women and romantic happiness are his kryptonite

Many of the characters do, actually.  Jimmy got his second wind and is ready to let his creative juices flow.  After Becca dumped him, he wrote the book.  While with Gretchen, his work suffered, but now he can focus on work again.  Edgar, however, doesn’t have a snarky retort this time for one reason: Gretchen isn’t around anymore.  With Gretchen, Jimmy was decent to be around, but with her out of the picture, Edgar isn’t looking forward to Jimmy being 100 percent dick again.  He’s tired of being taken advantage of and plans to move out of Jimmy’s place.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Lindsay and Gretchen do drugs, present day

Gretchen, meanwhile, is in a freefall and once again relies on Lindsay to be her partner in crime.  The two still find marriage to be bullshit and Gretchen puts down the responsibilities of adulthood.  She would much rather just go to New York, as she originally intended.  So, Lindsay says, let’s just go!  Sounds like a plan.  They can put their troubles behind them, go to Puerto Rican dance halls, and take in so much New York dick that their pussies will be overwhelmed.

Unfortunately, Gretchen’s reckless behavior ends up getting her fired when Sam reminds her that the recording studio is a place of business.  It’s a bit of a double standard, but I’ll go into detail this when discussing Gretchen later.  Now jobless, Gretchen realizes that she may need to take a minute to reevaluate her life, so she decides to head home, much to Lindsay’s anger.  After all, Lindsay is the one who got married and had some semblance of an adult life, but the minute she’s willing to drop adulthood and embrace the carefree life with Gretchen, she’s left on her own.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Becca shows up at Jimmy's

Becca also receives an unexpected surprise when she shows up at Jimmy’s place to have sex with him, and he’s actually not interested.  He doesn’t even remember his comment, but he does advise Becca to go home.  This isn’t her.  She’s married.  Shocked and outraged, Becca is kindly shown the door.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy plays guitar

The episode draws to a close as Jimmy and Gretchen sort of begin to clean up their acts.  Jimmy begins to compose a song that probably won’t go anywhere.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Gretchen cleans up some of her home

While Gretchen cleans up some of her apartment and uses the food processor to make drinks.  Hey, it’s a start.

I like to think of “Constant Horror and Bone Deep Dissatisfaction” as the midlife crisis episode.  In addition to learning how our characters came to be who we know them as now- or how little they actually changed- they go through some big changes and slowly accept that they can’t be kids forever.  There’s no way you can stay a kid forever.  Eventually, you realize that adulthood is inevitable and, even though the journey may be scary, unpredictable, and uncomfortable, it’s a journey we all have to take.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Lindsay promises to keep the party going

Jimmy and Gretchen, though, don’t go on much of a journey because they stay pretty much the same in the past and present.  That’s not to say they don’t change, but they don’t go through any substantial development.  They’re both still petulant children, but what ended up keeping them in line was the other person.  For example, Gretchen talked of being ready to walk away from her life and go to New York, but her relationship with Jimmy kept her there.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Gretchen in a fender bender

In the past, though, both characters are in a funk.  As mentioned, Gretchen found herself increasingly lonely with everyone around her embracing adulthood.  More than that, she got herself in trouble with the law when she ended up in a fender bender, which she referenced in a previous episode.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy runs into a homeless Edgar

Jimmy, meanwhile, isn’t receiving the level of royalties from his book that he expected, which is only a problem since he needs those to live.  He could get to work on the sequel, but nothing has come to him yet.  He also had to contend with a nervous Edgar, who Jimmy saw more as a distraction than a roommate.

The Jimmy from a few years ago is only a bit more optimistic about love than the one we currently know.  He actually has hope that things could work out between people, even if he didn’t fully believe in love.  He references literature that states a problem isn’t being single, but being alone.  And, when referring to The Notebook– is that any good?- he acknowledges that love isn’t easy, but hard.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Edgar sits with the kids at the wedding

But once he gets dumped, the idealistic Jimmy dies, and out of the ashes comes the jaded Jimmy who feels a need to have a witty retort or insult for everything.  He has little to no regard for anyone’s feelings except for his own, which shows through his poor treatment of Edgar at the wedding reception.  As Edgar mentioned, he could endure Jimmy he was with Gretchen.  Not in a nagging way, but Gretchen kept Jimmy in check and called him out on his shit, which is made very clear when she called him a mean person in the previous episode.

Yes, Jimmy is a mean person, but he believes that his negativity is a result of the world’s cruelty.  He tells Edgar that women and romantic happiness are his kryptonite, as if a few bad experiences automatically make him impervious to love.  Is that how people react when they go through a bad breakup or two?  They suddenly feel that they can’t be happy?  Because if so, that’s pretty pathetic.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Becca smokes a cigarette

Recognize that you can’t and won’t always land on your feet when it comes to love, that and learn to enjoy yourself.  Again, this isn’t my area of expertise by any means, but relationships don’t always work out the way we want.  If they did, chances are that more people would believe in love at first sight.  That, or it would be more scientifically accurate, but that’s beside the point.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Gretchen and Ty meet at premiere

At the same time, Gretchen isn’t any more into relationships now as she will be later on, but her issue is that her friends are moving on without her.  She looks down upon adulthood, even going as far as saying that marriage leads to kids, which leads to you realizing that you were dead the entire time.  She’s not ready for that because she still doesn’t even know what she wants to do with her life.  A little bit of constructive criticism- not hard work- landed her the publicist position, and even then, it’s not a position she took seriously.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Gretchen is cynical about adulthood

Gretchen really didn’t take a lot of her life seriously.  She wallows in her own pity, but also doesn’t want any sort of help because she prefers to do things on her own.  Or, maybe, she does things on her own because everyone else has found a partner.  At the wedding, she rants about how there’s nothing for here, which is why she planned to go to New York without telling anyone.  She hates goodbyes.  Instead of behaving like an adult and accepting some responsibility, she wants to stay right where she is because it’s comfortable and easy.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Sam is not pleased with Gretchen's drug usage at work

But in addition to Jimmy keeping her around, Gretchen’s personal issues and drug use prove to be her undoing.  She defends herself to Sam by pointing out that he, Shit Stain, and Honey Nutz do stupid shit like this all the time, but the difference is that Sam is 21.  Gretchen is 30.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Sam tells off Gretchen

While not technically a kid compared to Gretchen and the others, he’s still young and can get away with doing stupid shit.  Gretchen, though, is an adult and, in Sam’s mind, should take some responsibility, especially when she’s the group’s publicist and promotes their brand.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Lindsay wants to go to New York

Only when Gretchen starts acting like an adult does she end up alienating Lindsay.  All this time, Gretchen has been needy for attention.  Lindsay finally decides to take her up on that offer, and it’s at that moment that Gretchen decides to grow up.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Lindsay pissed that Gretchen is leaving her

Let’s talk about Lindsay for a second.  She has the life that Gretchen despises: one with a husband, mortgage, a future, you know how it goes.  But by this point, we know that Lindsay isn’t happy in her marriage, so she’s willing to walk down the self-destructive path Gretchen wants to walk if it means they get to keep the party going.

But, to be frank, if Lindsay wanted to go down a self-destructive path filled with sex, drugs, and Puerto Rican dance halls, she could probably do that on her own.  Both she and Gretchen are needy, but Lindsay already lives a life on the wild side.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Lindsay talks about taking New York dick

She doesn’t have her shit together at all- she just has some semblance of stability that’s rocked by her antics.  When she talks about what she’d love to do in New York, it’s clear that this is something she’s dreamed of doing.  The only thing keeping her where she is right now is her crappy marriage.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Lindsay tries to do coke off of her own titties

By the way, the scene with Lindsay trying to snort cocaine off of her own breasts may simultaneously be one of the funniest and saddest images of the series so far.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy and Edgar about to leave for the wedding

Edgar actually starts at a low point when we first meet him, but makes some significant changes for the better by episode’s end.  He starts off as a returning veteran that has trouble fitting back into society, so he lives on the streets and gets in fights with random strangers.  It was established in the pilot that Jimmy once bought drugs from Edgar, so it was nice to see them make that connection during their first encounter in years.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Edgar tells off Jimmy

It’s quite sad how Jimmy treats Edgar in this episode and Desmin Borges is great at letting Edgar’s inner anger loose.  Edgar gets stuck at the kids table and not only does he not know how to deal with crowds yet, the kids didn’t even invite him to the after party.  Despite Edgar willing to put up with Jimmy’s antics, he’s still relegated to the side.

Like Edgar told Lindsay, they’re both sidekicks, but for Edgar, he’s more than just a sidekick: he’s a prop.  A nice tie-in to the way countries treat returning soldiers, but Edgar came back from fighting for his country and ended up being treated like a hindrance instead of a friend.

With Gretchen, he could stomach Jimmy because he knew Gretchen would call him out on his shit.  Without that, there’s nothing keeping Jimmy from going back to being a complete asshole, so Edgar refuses to put up with that.  He becomes more assertive, doing things like paying for drinks, and he tells off Jimmy.  It really felt like he’d been holding onto this anger for a long time.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy reacts to Edgar calling him out

And even though Edgar is right about Gretchen keeping Jimmy in line, you can tell from Jimmy’s reaction to Edgar’s rage that even he realizes how much of an asshole he’s been to someone he considers a friend.  And once Edgar leaves, Jimmy realizes just how alone he really is.

Constant Horror and Bone-Deep Dissatisfaction- Jimmy tells Becca to go home

He even turns down Becca because he’s having a change of heart about who he is, and this is a woman who threw herself at him.  He’s at his lowest point and would probably want a woman at his side, but he’s actually not interested because he wants to show some responsibility.

“Constant Horror and Bone Deep Dissatisfaction” showed the characters at a low point and took a look at their pasts so we could see what led them to become who they are today.  They didn’t change much between the past and the pilot, but by episode’s end, they go through significant development as they try to become more responsible.  Well, except for Lindsay, anyway.  But wait, there’s still one more episode.

A Look at You’re the Worst- Season 1, Episode 8: “Finish Your Milk”

Something else I’m guessing couples aren’t ready for at first: meeting the parents.  This is the main plot of the eighth episode: “Finish Your Milk.”

Finish Your Milk- Gretchen has Jimmy cover for her

Gretchen is set to fly out and spend time with her parents- and get out of going the gym at the same time- but doesn’t want Jimmy to take her to the airport.  He insists and only intends to drive her there without any sort of awkward confrontation between the parents.  Fair enough.

Finish Your Milk- Shit Stain and Honey Nutz deduce that Gretchen is trying to hide Jimmy

When all is said and done, Jimmy intends to spend the day at the cinema, where he runs into Honey Nutz and Shit Stain.  It’s worth noting that the only reason Jimmy is at a Black cinema is because he can yell out character insistencies and other issues.  Such things can’t be done at a White theatre.  However, Honey Nutz and Shit Stain find it odd that Gretchen is out of town, given that they’re supposed to meet with her later.

One phone call later, they learn that Gretchen is still in town and at an art gallery with her parents, which begs the question of why she would lie to Jimmy.  The two rappers realize quicker than Jimmy that Gretchen is trying to hide him from her parents, similar to Richie and Margot in the Royal Tenebaums.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy joins Gretchen at the art gallery

So Jimmy heads to the art gallery, much to Gretchen’s surprise.  Jimmy doesn’t buy her elaborate excuse of how her parents showed up when she was supposed to be visiting them.  Even typing that out, her excuse sounds stupid.  Jimmy refuses to leave until Gretchen produces her parents.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy meets Gretchen's 'parents'

So she does.  Though Jimmy hasn’t met the parents before, the conversation doesn’t last too long.  Gretchen’s father is having a surgery, anyway, so they have to get going.  Jimmy seems to buy it, but when Gretchen leaves, he starts piecing a few things together: Gretchen mentioned a Dr. Pablo, and they’re in an art gallery, her father is having back surgery, which leads Jimmy to notice a woman with a back brace, and the procedure is experimental, as it reads on an art brochure.  Jimmy returns to the couple and learns that they are not, in fact, Gretchen’s parents.

Finish Your Milk- Gretchen's parents

After a bit of snooping, and the return of that moustache, Jimmy soon meets Gretchen’s real parents, Fred, played by Stephen Mendel, and Vanessa, played by Rebecca Tilney.  Gretchen’s parents are the definition of upper echelon: they’re snooty, play tennis for sport, and criticize their daughter’s tennis prowess.  They don’t think little of her, but Gretchen looks like she wants to make them happy, so she creates another elaborate tale- this one about Jimmy.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy meets Gretchen's real parents

Apparently, Jimmy and Gretchen met at a fundraiser.  He’s from the fancy part of London and one of his novels is being turned into a movie starring Zach Braff.  Gretchen is doing all of the talking for Jimmy, who intends to leave, but can’t take this charade.  He fesses up: he’s not from the fancy part of London- he’s from Manchester.  He may not always agree with Gretchen, but he doesn’t like the way her mother bullies her.  Gretchen isn’t some fancy philanthropist- she lives off 7-11 hot dogs.  That’s a bit too much, Jimmy, but whatever you think works.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy and Gretchen argue about truths and lies in relationships

Gretchen isn’t pleased by this act, though, but Jimmy doesn’t back down.  He thinks that people should prefer having a fractured, combative relationship based on truth as opposed to an unpleasant, artificial one based on lies.  Jimmy values honesty, and I really can’t disagree with that.  Gretchen, though, doesn’t call it honesty.  She says that it’s bullying and that Jimmy himself is a mean person.  But, as Jimmy retorts, at least he is a person.

Damn.  Again, I’ve never been in one of these situations, but it’s immediately clear to Jimmy that he didn’t just insult Gretchen right there- he hurt her.

Finish Your Milk- Gretchen finds an engagement ring

Now hurt, Gretchen goes off and heads to Jimmy’s room.  She wants to blow her nose and dry her eyes, but there’s no tissue in the box by his bed.  Go figure.  Anyway, she goes through his shirt drawer and finds not just a shirt to wipe her face with- why do people do this?- but an engagement ring as well.

Realizing her future based on Jimmy’s upcoming move, Gretchen decides to end things between them right there and then.  She said from the start that she hates relationships, but now she’s in one.  This is her last chance to hop off this speeding train.

Now, we could call this the breakup episode, but there are still two episodes left in the season.

“Finish Your Milk” tackled what I’m guessing is one of the more awkward moments of a relationship: meeting the parents.  This has the potential to be rewarding if the parents like the significant other, or it can be an interrogation sequence as you’re grilled on your intentions with the parents’ sweet, innocent child.  Of course, innocence is subjective, but I’ll assume that people in relationships don’t want to disappoint their parents with the choice they made.

That’s a large assumption and in no way universal, but some of us may just throw caution to the wind and commit to the person that we like, regardless of everyone’s opinion.

Not Gretchen, though.  Of the two relationships Jimmy describes, Gretchen’s is the latter: artificial and based on lies.  She’s focused on making her parents happy, even if that means lying to them.  They exist in two different worlds: the parents are very posh and come off as very wealthy and well-read, but Gretchen is more laid back and down-to-earth.

Finish Your Milk- Fred tells Gretchen to finish her milk

Granted, we don’t get to know much about Gretchen’s parents and I don’t think they’re as demanding or bullying as Jimmy makes them out to be, but I get the impression that Gretchen is the kind of child who may have let her parents down with her life choices.  She’s now paralyzed with the fear of letting them down yet again.  As such, she first tries to hide Jimmy from them altogether, but when he finds them himself, she tries to make him seem better than he is.  This kind of deceit can and does only get worse as Gretchen digs herself deeper.

She has a point that Jimmy shouldn’t be telling her how to have a relationship with her parents, but it’s still her decision.  It’s not the best decision, in my opinion, but it’s still hers and she’s allowed to have that.  Gretchen wants to maintain this wholesome image that she’s a good daughter, but she keeps disappointing her parents, even when she tries her best.  Should she ignore their opinion altogether and just bring Jimmy out into the open?  Sounds like that would make more sense, but she fears letting them down again.  Instead of taking that risk, she tries to keep Jimmy separate from her family life altogether.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy speaks in defense of Gretchen

Jimmy, however, doesn’t care about that and prefers to just be honest, even if means making someone angry.  After all, that’s who he is.  When he tells Gretchen’s parents that they don’t know the real her, who is brave and spontaneous, Gretchen sees firsthand that Jimmy really does care for her, even if he has a weird way of showing it- it’s devotion, but odd devotion to a person who he knows is as toxic as he is.  He wants them to see Gretchen for who she really is because she’s unhappy with this facade, and so is he.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy realizes that Gretchen lied about her parents

And he’s at least smart enough to pick up on Gretchen’s crap, such as when he puts the context clues at the art gallery together and realizes that Gretchen tried to play him for a fool.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy sees Gretchen with her real parents

When he finally spots her playing tennis with her parents, his facial expression says it all.  Gretchen saying ‘Mommy?’  Playing tennis and getting upset when her mother criticizes her backhand?  This isn’t the cynical, brash Gretchen that he knows.  Something about this doesn’t fit.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy tells Gretchen that at least he is a person

Is honesty really the best policy?  As much of an outright prick as he is, I have to side with Jimmy here.  I don’t believe there’s such a thing as a perfect relationship, but I do think that basing it on lies and deception only hurts the people involved.  Better to have a more combative relationship based on honesty because at least everything is out in the open.  There’s no need to hide behind deceit.

Finish Your Milk- Gretchen calls Jimmy a mean person

Gretchen disagrees with this, and that’s what, I think, made the argument feel so raw and real.  We know that these two are cynical, but Jimmy is the more outspoken of the two.  Gretchen is at least trying to be a grown-up about some things, but even that’s not saying much.  Her behavior around her parents is artificial, which is what prompts Jimmy to deliver the stinging comment of saying that Gretchen isn’t a person.  His quick reaction to his own words shows that even he believes he may have gone too far.

Finish Your Milk- Gretchen ends the relationship

I liked the use of the split-screen during their confrontation.  When it was first used in the pilot, the two actually weren’t in the same space.  Now, however, they’re both at Jimmy’s place, but the split-screen just shows how the two couldn’t be further apart than at this moment.  It’s a confrontation that I think the show has been building to, as Jimmy is quicker to take a person down a peg than Gretchen.  She’s right to call him mean, but I would say she’s wrong for lying to herself.  I don’t find a clear answer here, but it’s another reason why I enjoy You’re the Worst and how it deconstructs relationships by slowly putting two toxic people together.

Finish Your Milk- Paul and Lindsay

But they’re not the only ones having problems in this episode.  Lindsay has her own share of issues.  Becca confides in her that Jimmy tried to kiss her, which Lindsay flips out about, for some reason.  Becca isn’t happy in her marriage, either, which she realizes is a commitment she continues to struggle with, 24/7.

Finish Your Milk- Becca and Lindsay talk about cheating

Lindsay struggles with whether to tell Paul about her infidelity.  Unlike Becca, Lindsay doesn’t show any restraint when it comes to being with fooling around with someone outside of her marriage.  As such, like Gretchen, she can’t bring herself to be honest with herself, so she finds herself spending the day with Paul and even rides with him on his tandem.

Finish Your Milk- Lindsay gets a nose bleed while hanging out with Paul

By the way, sitting in a semi-reclined position on a tandem provides a better distribution of body weight and better blood flow to the anus and testicles.  Paul’s words, not mine, but words of wisdom to live by nonetheless.  It’s also worth noting that four Presidents were home brewers: George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, James Madison, and Barack Obama.  Who knew?  These are the kind of things Paul must think about even when he’s not with Lindsay.

Finish Your Milk- Lindsay enjoys spending time with Paul

Interesting enough, Lindsay actually finds that she enjoyed spending time with Paul, even if she didn’t admit to cheating on him.  If Lindsay weren’t so repulsed by Paul or the type of woman who enjoys watching television shows with adultery- apparently that’s all she watches- she could probably have a healthy relationship with Paul.  As is, she’s just the adulteress that likes sitting on people’s faces.

Finish Your Milk- Edgar at the V.A.

Again, Edgar is a complex character with some deep, psychological issues that do deserve attention, but he doesn’t get it from either Jimmy or the Department of Veterans’ Affairs.  He’s reduced to recycling in order to get money for Ambien and doesn’t want to go to the V.A. because he believes there are veterans out there with real problems.  I’m sure that waking up with a knife is a problem, but okay.  Edgar’s decision.

Finish Your Milk- Edgar at the Veterans Affairs office

The scenes at the office where Edgar tries to make his case are indicative of how we don’t give veterans that much attention or focus after all they’ve done.  The office is filled with unopened boxes and veterans line up like they’re waiting to take their examination at the DMV.

Finish Your Milk- Jimmy tells Edgar to head back to the V.A.

What’s worse is that Edgar just ends up getting turned around and around.  After the first visit, he goes to Jimmy, thinking that he’s taking advantage of him…

Finish Your Milk- Vet turns in his hook

…but he ends up back at the V.A. and ends up having another veteran turn in his hook.  Whoops.

Finish Your Milk- Edgar helps Jimmy cook

In the end, though, Edgar is still a good friend to Jimmy and is there to console him after the break-up.  He even helps him cook after being so surprised that Jimmy would even try in the first place.  It’s a warm moment to end on as the two have both had terrible days, but can still be there for each other at the moment.  “Finish Your Milk” brought Jimmy and Gretchen’s relationship to a screeching halt as the two grappled with what’s the better policy: honesty or deception.

Jimmy prefers everything out in the open, but Gretchen wants to hold back when necessary.  The friction between them leads to their break-up, but there are still two more episodes in this season, so let’s keep moving.

A Look at You’re the Worst- Season 1, Episode 7: “Equally Dead Inside”

Episode Seven, “Equally Dead Inside,” has Jimmy and Gretchen acknowledging that they won’t sleep with other people, but they still don’t think much of whatever it is they have.  In fact, Edgar is more ecstatic about this bond than either Jimmy or Gretchen.  They aren’t, as Edgar puts it, boyfriend and girlfriend.  They’ve just made a verbal agreement to not sleep with other people.  So close enough, but with more words and less lovey-dovey stuff.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy receives a jersey from his father

Jimmy’s conflict this week revolves around a jersey he received in the mail.  Upon looking at it, his face becomes a mix of disappointment and anger, prompting him to throw the jersey out and leave.  Normally, Edgar would give Jimmy a pep talk, but luckily, that’s now Gretchen’s job.  Since she’s his lady, she has to get to know him more.  That all takes effort, though.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy thinks his books have sold out, learns Sandra Bernhard will be coming for a book reading

However, Jimmy receives the surprise of his life when he heads to his bookstore and can’t find any copies of his book.  He believes that they’ve sold out, but the owner tells him that’s not the case- he’s just been remaindered.  Besides, the owner has more important matters to deal with, like the upcoming book reading by Sandra Bernhard, or “the lesbian from Roseanne,” as Jimmy refers to her.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy depressed while Gretchen shows a liked Instagram photo

Yes, our witty Brit is in a funk and nothing is cheering him up.  Gretchen doesn’t make things better, either.  Normally, Jimmy would tolerate Gretchen’s randomness, but when she brings up how someone at her job named Dana liked an Instagram photo she put up, Jimmy just asks why someone else’s internet approval is meaningful.  This is something Jimmy would probably say anyway, though had he not been in this funk, I think he’d have been more receptive to Gretchen.

So what’s the problem with the jersey?  It’s just a jersey.  Well, turns out that this particular Manchester jersey came from Jimmy’s father, even though Jimmy doesn’t even like sports.  More than that, Jimmy once sent his father a copy of his book months ago, but got no response…until now.  Gretchen, though she doesn’t want to, tries to listen to Jimmy talk about his troubles.

Equally Dead Inside- Edgar and Lindsay talk at dinner while waiting for Jimmy and Gretchen

Meanwhile, Lindsay and Edgar wait for Jimmy and Gretchen to join them at dinner.  Lindsay apparently doesn’t have many people ask her questions, as she’s surprised when Edgar asks how she’s been.  She isn’t well, though, as she’s still upset about cheating on Paul with Aiden- the nice guy from the previous episode.  To her, there’s wife Lindsay and Adulteress Lindsay that likes sitting on people’s faces.  Personally, I’d rather hang out with Adulteress Lindsay.

Edgar has his own alternate personality: there’s veteran Edgar and regular Edgar.  Edgar had a traumatic brain injury, but so did Lindsay.  No, really.  She stared at a strobe light for way too long while at a rave and now she’s forgotten how to whistle.  That’s apparently a thing.  We’ll get back to these two in a moment.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy rants about his father while Gretchen plays a game

Jimmy is still ranting about how much he wanted his father to say he was proud of him, but Gretchen is more focused on the game she’s playing.  She explains that she listens better when she’s doing stuff with her hands.

Equally Dead Inside- Lindsay and Gretchen at frozen yogurt store

That frozen yogurt Gretchen and Lindsay frequent is still open for business, but the cashier has come up with a new method in order to deal with them: it’s all self-serve.  Each patron receives a sample cup and only one free sampling is allowed.  Most people would probably abide by this, but it’s still faulty design, as Lindsay and Gretchen just sample one flavor after the other.  Can’t really fault the two for taking advantage of the system.

Anyway, Gretchen isn’t a fan of Jimmy’s moodiness, but also isn’t ready for this part of a relationship.  Lindsay’s not happier due to her infidelity, but Gretchen isn’t listening.  She listens better when she has something in her mouth.  I sense a theme here.

Equally Dead Inside- Lindsay meets Gretchen's work wife, Dana, played by Jeanine Mason

Either way, Gretchen is feeling abandoned by Lindsay, even though Gretchen is the one not paying attention to her friend.  Not seeing the hypocrisy in this, Gretchen leaves with her work wife, Dana, played by Jeanine Mason.

Equally Dead Inside- Lindsay and Edgar react to being sidekicks

Once again, Edgar and Lindsay wonder why Jimmy and Gretchen are flaking out on them.  But then it finally hits Edgar: he and Lindsay are sidekicks.  How meta.  Lindsay is absolutely aghast!  She’s Beyonce, not Kelly Rowland.  She’s a motorcycle, not that shitty little side seat next to the motorcycle!

Equally Dead Inside- Gretchen suggests she and Jimmy do it backwards while he watches foot fetish anime

Gretchen is still unable to shake Jimmy out of his funk.  She tries the obvious methods, like playing something sad and English.  When that doesn’t work, she realizes there’s just one solution: they have sex backwards while Jimmy watches foot fetish anime.  I did not know this was a thing, but Jimmy isn’t feeling this, so Gretchen leaves.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy at Sandra Bernhard's book reading

However, Jimmy does find something to occupy his time when he attends Sandra Bernhard’s book reading.  He wants to heckle her, but he’s so captivated by her work that he can’t make fun of her anymore.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy meets with Sandra Bernhard at book reading

When he meets her, she then asks for some of his heckles.  They aren’t that impressive and Jimmy is probably better off having not said them.  She does think that Jimmy being remaindered is a waste of money, though.  It’d be much better to just take all of his books and throw them into a hobo trash can fire.  That would save you a few bucks, I’m sure.  Jimmy decides he’ll take the life-size cardboard cutout of Sandra Bernhard as his consolation prize.

Equally Dead Inside- Dana and Gretchen grab drinks and talk about emotions

I’m not a fan of characters delivering words of wisdom that just happen to apply to one of the protagonists, but as Gretchen and Dana bond over drinks, Dana asks Gretchen if she can imagine not being able to experience emotions.  And, of course, Gretchen’s response is no, she can’t.

Equally Dead Inside- Dana and Gretchen come to have a threesome with Jimmy

However, because Dana is fun and spontaneous, Gretchen brings her to Jimmy’s so he can finally experience a threesome.  Apparently it’s a thing to have a threesome when you’re in middle school.  I missed that notice.

Equally Dead Inside- Dana and Gretchen kiss

While a threesome with two women sounds amazing, turns out that Jimmy already shot his load.  It’s possible that he premature ejaculated from excitement, but he says that it’s from earlier, starting from when he went downstairs to his room.  Apparently that’s where he started and he just likes to bathe in the afterglow.  Eww.  You get all sticky that way.  Despite Jimmy’s current state, he calls Dana of all people weird, causing her to storm off.  Never mind that Jimmy has a life-size cutout of Sandra Bernhard in his room.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy not comfortable with Gretchen's feelings

After this, though, Gretchen is in her feelings about how she made a friend and just alienated her by asking her to participate in a threesome.  Completely skipped taking her to dinner and everything, too.  As Gretchen talks about her life, her past problems, and the sad little 10 year old girl she is, she’s looking for someone to hear her out.  Jimmy, however, is not that person and quickly tells Gretchen to stop emoting because she’s making his skin crawl.

Jimmy fails to see the irony, though he correctly points out that Gretchen didn’t listen to him, either.  The two wonder just what in the hell is wrong with them.  However, they can take solace in the fact that they’ve found someone who is as equally dead inside as the other.  The two vow to never feel anything around each other ever again.

And scene.

“Equally Dead Inside” takes time to slowly develop Jimmy and Gretchen’s relationship and doesn’t throw it in your face that the two are, in almost every sense of the word, ‘official.’  But then, like the previous episode, they still despise those cute little buzzwords.  To them, little has changed, but they’re still of the opinion that this could go south any time.

Equally Dead Inside- Gretchen and Edgar surprised that Jimmy never had took part in group sex

The problem is now that they’re an item, their bond has to go beyond sex.  Once you commit yourself to someone, conversations won’t always be about sex and your day.  You start digging deeper and talking about your feelings.  Your emotions start pouring out and you hope that certain someone will be there to be a shoulder to cry on and comfort you in your time of need.

Equally Dead Inside- Gretchen doesn't want to get to know the real Jimmy

And that’s not what Gretchen signed up for, as she’s not ready to commit to this.  As she tells Lindsay, she’s not equipped to handle this part of a relationship.  She doesn’t want to get to know Jimmy or his daddy issues because that takes the fun out of their little thing.  Knowing him on a deeper level would require her to put forth effort and step outside of herself but, as we’ve seen, Gretchen is a very self-consumed person.

Equally Dead Inside- Gretchen unable to talk to Jimmy

She’d like to get to know Jimmy on a deeper level, sure, but once that happens, they stop being two people just hanging out and actually become boyfriend and girlfriend.  Gretchen isn’t ready to take that step, which is why she finds it so awkward for her to deal with a moping Jimmy.

Equally Dead Inside- Gretchen tries to get Jimmy to open up

Her priority is still having as much fun as possible and she hopes that will snap Jimmy out of his funk, but you can’t always solve a problem with fun, sex, or foot fetish anime.  Taking Jimmy’s feelings seriously would mean she sees him as more than just a guy she hangs out and has sex with.  The two would become something more, which isn’t what they want.  However, the more they start to learn about one another, the more inevitable it is before they start talking about their feelings.  That’s hard to do for two emotionally detached cynics.

Equally Dead Inside- Gretchen makes plans while Jimmy is still depressed

If Jimmy and Gretchen were completely open with one another and accepted that right off the bat, there would no conflict.  We’ve known since the beginning that they reject the notions of traditional romance, and that includes emotional attachment.  They make a pact to never feel around each other again because they’re not like other people, and that makes them perfect for each other, but no one else.

Equally Dead Inside- Edgar realizes that he and Lindsay are sidekicks

This includes their friends, as Lindsay and Edgar get to spend more time together and have the sudden realization that they’re being sidelined.  Luckily, the two aren’t just here to fill up time.  I mean, they sort of are, but it’s not without humor.  Edgar tries to compare him and Lindsay being sidekicks to Mary Tyler Moore or Rhoda, but since Lindsay doesn’t know who those two people are, Edgar is forced to go with a more contemporary example: Jeff Lewis or Jenny from Flipping Out on Bravo.

Equally Dead Inside- Edgar and Lindsay waiting again

It would be easy for the two to just talk about how they have nothing to do, but Lindsay and Edgar do have very good chemistry together.  They have their fair share of complex issues and I like that the show is building off of character traits and quirks established in previous episodes, such as Edgar’s war memories or Lindsay’s serial cheating.

As much as Gretchen talks about needing a friend and feeling abandoned, neither she nor Jimmy realize yet what they’re doing to Edgar and Lindsay by always leaving them to fend for themselves.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy fantasized about Dana and Gretchen

We haven’t learned much about Jimmy’s past, so it was a refreshing change of pace to hear him talk about his failed relationship with his father.  And I’m glad he snapped out of his funk quickly enough.  His reaction during the threesome was priceless and I enjoyed how he was so focused on the fact that Dana and Gretchen’s boobs must have touched when they hugged.  Priorities, this guy.

Equally Dead Inside- Sandra Bernhard

Sandra Bernhard is fine in her appearance, but she doesn’t really get much to do aside from put down Jimmy’s heckles and take him down a peg.  For someone as cynical as Jimmy, it’s nice to see someone throw his sarcastic wit right back at him.

Equally Dead Inside- Jimmy and Gretchen make a pact to never feel around one another

“Equally Dead Inside,” in my opinion, isn’t as strong as “PTSD,” but it did show the kind of progress and changes that Jimmy and Gretchen are slowly making as their…thing slowly develops into a relationship where they’re forced to open their hearts to each other.  Perish the thought, they say, as they vow to never feel around each other again.  They’re just not ready.

A Look at You’re the Worst- Season 1, Episode 6: “PTSD”

The whole ‘wanting both’ concept from “Sunday Funday” goes right out the window for Jimmy and Gretchen in the next episode: “PTSD.”  It doesn’t stand for what you think, though, but we’ll get to that later.  This episode goes to show just how well Jimmy and Gretchen work for each other, but not other people.

That doesn’t mean they can’t form meaningful relationships or friendships with others- if Edgar and Lindsay are any indication- but when it comes to being romantically involved, they are, as Becca once said, poison.  They are poison for each other, but that’s what makes them so damn compatible.  To anyone else, it would seem strange that two very incompatible people fit so well, but to Jimmy and Gretchen, it just makes sense, even if they’d never admit it to each other.  Yet.

PTSD- Vernon and Becca at marriage counseling

The series began with Vernon and Becca’s marriage, yet when we rejoin them for a significant amount of time, they’re already in marriage counseling.  And what is the key to a successful relationship?  Communication.  Despite the series beginning with their marriage, only six episodes later do we find that the two are unhappy.  Not the most successful of marriages if they crumble in such a short amount of time, but I’m no expert.

In Becca’s mind, there’s no trust between the two.  They’ll start off fine, but something minor will set them off.  It’s clear from here that Becca is the more committed into putting work into this marriage.  Vernon, however, wants to have more fun with his life and not be so rigid.  During a hip resurfacing, he took off his sunglasses, placed them on the patient’s testicles, and then took a picture.  He did it because humor is necessary in his profession.

At the end of the day, though, the counselor suggests that their marriage problems aren’t on them- instead, they’re because of the negative external elements that influence their relationship.

PTSD- Jimmy and Gretchen have breakfast with Vernon and Becca

As if on cue, we cut right to the two having brunch with Jimmy and Gretchen, who are much more carefree around one another, but also more concerned with breakfast than Vernon and Becca telling them that they can’t be around one another.  Jimmy just wants to be sure that breakfast is still on Vernon, while Gretchen only takes offense when Becca calls her and Jimmy a couple, when they’re just hanging out.

So the episode’s conflict kicks off from just a minor implication.  Jimmy is set to interview Hollywood “IT” girl Megan Thomas and Gretchen wants photos.  When Jimmy suggests nudes, Gretchen challenges him to get them.  After all, as he points out, Gretchen said that they aren’t a couple, so he’s free to do whatever he likes.  Now, Gretchen made this comment off the cuff, almost as a throwaway, but it stuck to Jimmy to the point that Gretchen thinks that he’s bothered by it.  He isn’t, though.  After all, as he says, clear rules must be established.

PTSD- Jimmy interviews Megan Thomas

It’s rare that we see Jimmy do anything in relation to his profession as an author or work-related at all, so it’s a refreshing change of pace to see him actually do something instead of just walk from scene to scene.  His interview with Megan Thomas, played by Ginger Gonzaga, goes well enough, but goes to an odd point when Megan wants Jimmy to feel her calf, as she’s been working out for her new role as a tsunami widow.  That is apparently a thing.

So when Jimmy informs Megan of his dare from Gretchen, she quickly orders more drinks.  Hey, Gretchen did say that they aren’t a couple, but Megan knows that there’s a reason for that, which we’ll get to later.

PTSD- Edgar makes breakfast nachos

We get to spend a bit more time with Edgar this week and learn that he’s been seeing a therapist, who told him that he should be alone as little as possible because he finds himself waking up with a knife…though he quickly tosses that bit of information aside.  There are a lot of hidden layers to Edgar’s character, I’m noticing, but they come out in short bursts.  He’s happy for Jimmy and Gretchen to the point that he made breakfast nachos, but he becomes a disappointed best friend at the sight of Megan.

PTSD- Lindsay advises Gretchen to break up with Jimmy

At first, Gretchen doesn’t think much of the photos of Megan since she did dare Jimmy to do it and she said she’s not his girlfriend, but Lindsay, for whatever reason, is livid, even though this has nothing to do with her.  She jumps to the extreme option: Gretchen has to break up with Jimmy.  I guess this is Lindsay trying to be the supportive best friend, but she really doesn’t have a reason to get involved- even more so when her plan involves spray painting pedophile on Jimmy’s garage door, like she did when her neighbors kept their Christmas lights up too long.

But Lindsay has another idea: Gretchen needs to sleep with some guy or she’ll resent Jimmy forever.  That’s what feminism is all about and is exactly what Susan B. Anthony died for.  Susan B. Anthony is apparently the woman who made an airplane disappear.  A useful friend, this Lindsay person.

PTSD- Gretchen meets up with an old friend

Though she’s still against the idea, Gretchen relents and visits her barista friend, Venti, played by Adam Tsekhman, but she clearly doesn’t want to be there.  Venti is in the most amazing job of all time: he’s a manager at a coffee shop.  Even though he’s surprised to see Gretchen, he’s hesitant to leave his post just so they can screw.  He could get fired.  Even still, he concedes.

PTSD- Jimmy reacts to Gretchen banging her ex

Feeling triumphant, even though she knows that this entire bet shouldn’t matter, Gretchen shares the news of her fling with Jimmy, who does have a quick reaction upon hearing that Gretchen had sex with someone else.  It’s very brief, but Jimmy and Gretchen have clear expressions of doubt and jealousy on their faces when the other talks about their affairs with other people.  This thing can still end at any point, right?

No, because we aren’t talking about adults here.  We’re dealing with children and Jimmy complicates the matter even further when he tells Gretchen that they aren’t even because he banged a Hollywood “IT” girl.  All Gretchen did was screw an ex, which doesn’t count as a full person.  There haven’t been any established rules in this game and Jimmy is already making this more difficult and childish than it needs to be.  But hey, if Gretchen wants to think they’re even, she can go right ahead.  Gretchen is smart.  She knows that this entire thing is ridiculous, but she storms off anyway.

PTSD- Lindsay talks about Previously Taken or Sucked Dick

But you know what?  Lindsay actually agrees with Jimmy.  Megan Thomas is a Hollywood “IT” girl, while Venti is just PTD- Previously Taken Dick.  Lindsay thought about this.  Gretchen can’t even slob on another guy’s dick.  That wouldn’t count.  No.  Gretchen has to rule out any Previously Taken or Sucked Dicks- hence, the title of the episode.  The sooner she gets someone behind her, the sooner she can put this behind her.

PTSD- Gretchen and Lindsay talk with Denver

So we get a montage of Lindsay and Gretchen talking to various guys, none of whom are ideal for Gretchen: one is more interested in showing off his house, another one talks about the struggle for Black actors, one is more interested in the game behind the two ladies, and there’s an overly nice guy as well.  I hope this isn’t how speed dating goes, because if so, I’ll just avoid it altogether.

PTSD- Gretchen rants to bouncer

With no candidates suitable enough, Gretchen again wonders aloud why this even bothers here.  Why do people have to feel lust and love when they have much larger priorities?  These feelings should be beneath her.  The bouncer, to her surprise, agrees with her.

PTSD- Lindsay rides the nice guy

And with that, we get Lindsay and Gretchen exploiting their catches.  Lindsay hooked up with the nice guy-

PTSD- Bartender fucks Gretchen

-while Gretchen and the bouncer fuck, though Gretchen is more concerned with being moved so she’s not close to the booger on the wall.  Gross.

PTSD- Gretchen calls Jimmy to boast about being even

Even though she wasn’t into this at all, she brags yet again to Jimmy, who now needs to even things out or tip the scales in his favor.  By this point, Gretchen is exhausted and wants to call it a draw, but since she’s now up by half a point, Jimmy has a thirst to equalize things.

PTSD- Jimmy texts his exes

The problem is that Jimmy soon learns how much of an asshole he really is when he gets nothing but rejections from all of the women in his “Previous Conquests” folder.

PTSD- Jimmy asks Becca why people hate him

With nowhere else to turn, he returns to the one woman he never expected to seek for advice: Becca.  She’s surprised to see him, but he comes with seemingly honest intentions.  He just wants to know why people hate him so much and what’s keeping him from sustaining a relationship.  Becca’s explanation is quite simple: Jimmy is a narcissist who uses people to get what he wants.  That reason is made very clear when Jimmy tries to kiss Becca, who rejects him outright.

PTSD- Jimmy calls it even

The resolution?  Jimmy and Gretchen bond over pinball, though Jimmy lies about his most recent conquest.  The problem is that they’re just two independently existing people who get together to have sex.  Neither will admit to being jealous that they spent time with another person.  Then the two, with about as much sarcasm as they can muster, suggest that they be exclusive.  Yeah, because that’d be a great idea.

And yet…that would be a reasonable and rational idea, wouldn’t it?

Again, Jimmy and Gretchen are perfect for each other.  Anyone else, though, would be a disaster.  They are the poison to each other’s poison.  At this point, they are acting like a genuine couple in everything but name.  They share each other’s breakfasts and talk about their days like they’ve been together for years, but the two continue to insist that this is purely casual.

PTSD- Gretchen realizes she and Jimmy are now exclusive

You can only keep things casual for so long when you make it into this childish competition.  Jimmy and Gretchen turn their interest for one another into a game and become more and more exasperated that they have to one-up each other, even though they know they don’t have to.  It would be too easy and straightforward for the two to admit they like each other.  However, when the two drop the sarcasm at the exclusivity suggestion, there’s a slow realization on both of their faces that seems to say “Hey, this could probably work out.”

Unlike Becca and Vernon, Jimmy and Gretchen are in constant communication with one another and open about a lot, but the one thing that draws them together is what they can’t be open about.  To suggest exclusivity without any sarcasm would mean the two are finally being honest about their feelings for one another.  That just can’t happen yet.  Yes, Jimmy and Gretchen are two people who get together to have sex.

PTSD- Gretchen and Jimmy in bed

To go any deeper than that would mean they soon turn into Vernon and Becca: an unhappy couple.  They don’t want to lose the chaos and entertainment that comes from a casual fling.  In stark contrast to the ‘happily’ married couple, Jimmy and Gretchen are fine just the way they are.  They’re open about what they like and what draws them to one another, but they aren’t grown-up enough to openly say something as simple as “I like you.”

Despite that, we see multiple times that the two don’t like the idea that the other is having sex with another person.  They’re in denial about their feelings and not mature to have an actual conversation about it.  Everything has to be layered with sarcasm and cynicism, but we can see on their faces that they’re jealous of the other one’s sexual conquests.  But they keep the contest going because neither wants to admit defeat.  Well, Gretchen eventually does, anyway.

PTSD- Bored Gretchen

And it’s because she took offense to the notion that she and Jimmy are anything but friends.  They spend so much time trying to prove that they end up unhappy when they aren’t together.  Gretchen is more interested in the wall than the bouncer because she knows that she is only using him.  Same goes with Venti.  She clearly didn’t want to talk to him, but she forced herself to be there because she let Lindsay talk her into thinking she had something to prove to Jimmy when, in fact, she didn’t.

We do have bigger problems in our lives to deal with than love and lust, but that doesn’t always mean we should try to bury those feelings.  I say always because, in my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with letting your feelings fester for a while, but that’s just me.

PTSD- Bouncer texts Gretchen

Jimmy and Gretchen are like Venus fly traps in this episode.  They take advantage of people they can exploit for their benefit, but they still don’t feel anything.  In fact, the ending montage isn’t the typical, sappy ones we’d expect from sitcoms.  Instead, we see the people who the two took advantage of and how their lives have been affected- most for the worst.

PTSD- Gretchen and Lindsay bored by one guy

At least Lindsay got to get her rocks off, but even she’s bored by some of the applicants.  I enjoyed her in this episode, if only for the extra energy she gave Gretchen.  I do have to wonder how many other people think that John Quincy Adams was the first Black astronaut, though.  She’s back to being second banana, but at least she wasn’t useless.

PTSD- Edgar talks to radio host about Jimmy and Gretchen

Edgar also didn’t have to wag his finger at Jimmy the way he did earlier, but damn it if he didn’t have to go through a whole lot of trouble for nothing.  He tried several avenues for talking about Jimmy messing around with a woman that wasn’t Gretchen, but got nowhere.  When it seemed like he would get somewhere, his outlet would have nothing of value to offer.

Again, Edgar proves why he’s such a good friend to Jimmy and it’s true that he wants Jimmy and Gretchen to be happy, but he needs to let the two make decisions for themselves instead of occasionally offering his input.

PTSD- Jimmy and Gretchen, Before

By episode’s end, Jimmy and Gretchen are a step closer to becoming the very thing they despise.  If we needed any indication about the uncertainty of their decision, it would be their facial expressions when they let the condoms fall.  Before…

PTSD- Jimmy and Gretchen, After

…and after.  Even they’re not so sure if this is a good idea.

A Look at You’re the Worst- Season 1, Episode 5: “Sunday Funday”

Wait, here we are.  “Sunday Funday” manages to put all four main characters together for once in a bit of day drinking and taking part in Edgar’s most amazing list.  Up until this point, we haven’t had all four characters interact at the same time, but this episode managed to give them all something to do, no matter how minimal.

This episode is all about making choices.  Sometimes we have to make them, and other times we’re just indecisive.  There’s no one saying that we have to always fall into one category or the other, but some, like Jimmy, feel that people should make up their mind instead of wavering without a concrete choice.  Gretchen, though, doesn’t see a need to always pick if she likes all available options.  Lindsay, however, sometimes like both, but we’ll get to that.

Sunday Funday- Gretchen meets up with Lindsay, talks about Ty and Jimmy

You see, Gretchen has received an invite from Ty to attend the Tribeca Film Festival and to travel there via his private plane.  It’s an enticing offer and one she is very much considering it, except for one thing: Jimmy.  She could skip the festival and lose nothing from it, but Jimmy has been on her mind a lot.  He’s an absolute prick, and yet Gretchen feels she could see herself spending years with him.  And that is the reason that compels her to get on the plane.  Her feelings on Jimmy can wait.  A brief, but telling moment, though we’ll get back to this later.

Sunday Funday- Edgar describes Sunday Funday

The main plot of this episode revolves around the weekly “Sunday Funday” activity that, as far as I can tell, Edgar, Gretchen, and Lindsay have always taken part in.  Not Jimmy, though.  He considers it all juvenile and is only here for the drinking.  Edgar and Lindsay see this as the last chance to squeeze every drop of life out of the weekend before Monday, even though neither of them works.  True as that is, though, apparently you can be unemployed and still hate Mondays.

Sunday Funday- Hipster rivals

But Edgar’s most amazing plan for Sunday Funday wouldn’t be as fun…day, without a little conflict, which he gets in the form of some hipsters.  These hipsters are also taking part in Sunday Funday, which isn’t too strange, but Edgar sees this as a challenge to his most excellent plan.  Plus, the leader, played by Thomas Middleditch from Silicon Valley, claims to have invented the day.  He also returns Edgar’s list after finding that he dropped it.  This will be relevant in a minute.

Sunday Funday- Lindsay tells Jimmy about Gretchen's plans

Jimmy plans to bail since this isn’t his thing, but he’s persuaded to stay when Lindsay tells him about Gretchen’s plans with Ty.  At first, Jimmy thinks nothing of it since Gretchen is free to do whatever she wants, but you can tell that the thought of Gretchen spending time with another guy does bother him a bit.  Still, he knows that Gretchen is a big girl who can make her own choices, but Lindsay corrects him, saying that 99 percent of Gretchen’s decisions are dog shit.  For some perverse reason, Jimmy makes Gretchen happy, so Lindsay wants him to stay.

Sunday Funday- Hipsters follow behind

So while Jimmy and Gretchen have their subplot play out, the Sunday Funday events turn into a game of follow the leader as Edgar finds that the group of hipsters is following them.  Lindsay thinks nothing of it at first, but Edgar is convinced that the leader copied Edgar’s list before returning it.  It could just be a coincidence, though, right?

Sunday Funday- Jimmy asks Gretchen to pick between Phil Collins and Peter Gabriel

Jimmy, though, having learned that Gretchen may have other plans, now tries to get her to pick between two choices, but does so by asking her to decide between Phil Collins and Peter Gabriel.  Gretchen says that they’re both good and decides she won’t pick either one.  Jimmy calls that a copout, saying a person can’t like two things that are diametrically opposed.

Sunday Funday- Gretchen still won't choose

This continues throughout the episode and Jimmy continues to throw out random choices, like Sean Connery or Roger Moore.  Gretchen, not a fan of the outdated references, picks neither and decides to go with Daniel Craig instead.  This doesn’t mesh with Jimmy, who thinks that Craig looks like an upset baby.  You know, looking back at Casino Royale, I sort of agree.

Sunday Funday- Lindsay pours one for Eazy E

Gretchen doesn’t feel a need to pick, even when given the option between eggs and pancakes.  It’s easier sometimes to not make choices, and Jimmy hates that.  It’d be like taking a cock in either the vagina or your ass, but you don’t care which hole.  As Lindsay points out, though, sometimes you want both.  This is also true.

Sunday Funday- Jimmy glad to be one thing

But Gretchen does have a reason for not picking.  She’s fine with being indecisive, but Jimmy prefers to just be one thing.  The second she makes a choice, she knows that she’ll open herself to a world of criticism from Jimmy.  That’s probably true.

Sunday Funday- Shopping cart racing

Continuing with the Sunday Funday events, Lindsay eventually has to leave for another engagement, but the trio of Jimmy, Gretchen, and Edgar go racing in shopping carts.

When they’re eventually joined by the hipsters.  Jimmy ends up all wet when the cart runs into a water barrel…

Sunday Funday- Gretchen on the phone

…and that leads us to the next event on the list: an open house.  The organizer always leaves out free cookies and alcohol, plus an open house is apparently a good way to judge your neighbor’s shitty taste.  Because Jimmy is all wet, Gretchen makes him go upstairs and shower.  When he emerges, he sees Gretchen outside and on the phone with Ty.  With jealousy clearly written across his face, Jimmy leaves the open house and Sunday Funday.

Sunday Funday- Confronting the hipsters

This leaves Gretchen and Edgar, who are now forced to join forces with the hipsters for the sake of getting a ride.  Gretchen, though, catches up with Lindsay and chews her out for abandoning her to hang out with other friends.  Lindsay has her reasons: around Gretchen, Lindsay never gets to be cool.  With these other women, she gets to be the cool one.  More than that, Lindsay isn’t even sure why she was dreading this event until Paul swings by.  Only then does she realize that this is, indeed, her future.  She wants what Gretchen has, but we’ll get to that in a minute.

Sunday Funday- Jimmy can't pick between eggs and pancakes

After stewing in his sadness, Jimmy texts Edgar about his current location and eventually shows up at the reception.  He tells Gretchen, in his own way, that it can be nice to have no reply at all and he even felt ashamed for making her pick between two things that she likes.  However, if she did pick Peter Gabriel- see Ty- and Jimmy is Phil Collins, then Phil Collins would be very sad.  It’s about as close to Jimmy saying ‘I like you’ as we’ve come so far.

Sunday Funday- Leaving the party together

The two leave the party together in a warm ending, though Lindsay has the horror of her life when she spots Paul holding a baby.  Perish the thought!

Sunday Funday- Jimmy notices Gretchen texting

Again, “Sunday Funday” is all about choices.  Jimmy has a very narrow-minded way of looking at things.  He doesn’t prefer to like multiple things; he’s fine with being one and done.  He spends most of the episode badgering Gretchen to pick between two opposite things not just because he wants her to become decisive, but so she’ll pick between him and Ty.  It would be too forward and obvious of him to ask that, plus it’s not in him to be so direct.

Sunday Funday- Jimmy listens to Lindsay talk about Gretchen

Jimmy admits that things between him and Gretchen are just casual without any sort of emotional attachment.  It could end any time and there would be no loss, but they do care for one another.  They’re just too proud to come out and say that.  And yet, when Lindsay tells Jimmy that he makes Gretchen happy, it’s clear from his reaction that the time they spend together is more than just casual.  There could be something much deeper at work here.

Sunday Funday- Jimmy sees Gretchen on the phone with Ty

It’s that same attachment that drives Jimmy’s jealousy for Ty.  If Jimmy cared nothing for Gretchen outside of the casual sex and banter, he’d have no reason to think anything of her spending time with another guy.  As he said to Lindsay, she’s free to make her own choices, but it still bothers him that those choices involve another man.

Sunday Funday- Jimmy and Gretchen meet up

And it’s not until near the end that Jimmy accepts the fact that he shouldn’t try and force Gretchen to make a choice.  Instead of some blown-up argument where the two sides are forced to make a decision, Jimmy makes the situation ridiculous through his series of ‘This or that’ examples.  Rather than coming out and saying ‘Him or me,’ because that would be a hit at his pride, he wants to know which actor Gretchen prefers to play James Bond.

Sunday Funday- Put it in my vagina or my butt

I’m gonna go out on a limb here and assume that a good number of couples don’t know how to properly talk about their feelings.  They’ll dance around the issue and try to avoid the subject altogether because just being upfront could lead to a confrontation, hurt feelings, or maybe they’re just naturally afraid.  That’s natural.

Sunday Funday- Gretchen fears commitment

Confronting our fears is something that we all eventually have to do, but that doesn’t mean that it will be easy, especially when it comes to affairs of the heart.  This is what Gretchen goes through this week.  She likes Ty, but she sees herself spending years at a time with Jimmy.  The very thought of that terrifies her, so she avoids making a choice between him and Ty so she can continue sampling both flavors.

Sunday Funday- Lindsay wants both

Since the first episode, we’ve seen Gretchen be a bit more carefree than Jimmy is.  There’s no reason for her to pick one or the other when she can have both.  Is that a copout?  Not entirely, but Gretchen is absolving herself from having to make the difficult choices that we don’t like to make.  At least, that’s how I see it.

Sunday Funday- Gretchen doesn't pick between Phil Collins or Peter Gabriel

She thinks that it’s bullshit for Jimmy to go with one way or the other when it’s just as possible to have a preference for both.  She won’t complicate an issue by picking between two very different things that she appreciates.  There’s nothing at stake or risk by deciding between two options, just as there’s nothing to lose by not picking between Jimmy and Ty right now.  Once she settles on one option, she fears that she’ll stick with it and, heaven forbid, get used to it.

Sunday Funday- Gretchen listens to Jimmy ramble

That would take away the fun of being able to just do as she pleases instead of being shackled down to one person because she made a choice.  Gretchen shows a lot of patience towards Jimmy’s ridiculous talks of choice, but that’s because she’s willing to tolerate his bullshit after putting up with it for so long already.  She has a connection with him, which makes the thought of them spending years together all the more plausible, and much scarier than she imagined.  That’s not a reality she wants to live in.

Sunday Funday- Lindsay realizes her future

But it’s a reality that Lindsay already lives in and hates.  Lindsay is married to a man who has a decent job, but that’s not good enough because she hates her relationship with Paul.  She’s already settled with a man she thought she loved, but, as she tells Gretchen, the years went on and she realized that this was her future: dullness.  Paul may not be the most engaging or exciting of husbands, but we see his devotion to Lindsay, who could care less about him.

Sunday Funday- Lindsay is never the cool one with Gretchen

Lindsay wants what Gretchen has: the freedom to not settle for one option.  She expected more, but as years passed, her life became less exciting.  Though Lindsay took the more adult approach compared to Gretchen, it’s not a life she’s happy with, unlike Gretchen, who hasn’t settled yet, but enjoys being able to like what she wants and not feel compelled to make a choice.

Sunday Funday- Gretchen doesn't want Lindsay to leave Sunday Funday

Though we’ve known it for some time, Lindsay realizes what a horrible decision she’s made in marrying Paul.  There’s no joy in her marriage.  And when she sees Paul holding a baby, the very idea of her having a child with him is horrifying.  It’s maddening, but shows how Lindsay, like Gretchen, wants to have it both ways.  She’s unemployed, but likes the security of being married to someone like Paul, but she wants to explore.

Sunday Funday- Jimmy's reaction to Gretchen saying she might want both

Side-note, I loved Jimmy’s reaction when Gretchen said that some people want both, as if he became suddenly engaged with the idea of her wanting to take it in the butt.

Sunday Funday- Finding the hipsters at the taco stand

Edgar’s subplot with Sunday Funday was made all the more enjoyable with his rivalry with the hipsters.  I enjoyed how competitive he made things between the two of them.  Each time there’s a confrontation between the two sides, the screen narrows to a theatrical release ratio.  Also, given how neither Edgar nor Lindsay has a job, I have to wonder how they spend the rest of the week outside of Sundays.

Sunday Funday- Hipster rival leader

And Thomas Middleditch was good as the hipster rival leader.  These characters haven’t appeared again in the series so far, but they’re quirky enough that I’d want to see them reappear.

Sunday Funday- Group all together

“Sunday Funday” showed the challenges, or lack thereof, in making decisions.  Jimmy realizes that everyone doesn’t have to line up with one or the other, while Gretchen stays just the way she is, embracing the freedom to pick and choose as she pleases.  And, as of now, that’s just the way she likes it.  Just like Lindsay said, sometimes you want both.

A Look at You’re the Worst- Season 1, Episode 4: “What Normal People Do”

Episode Four, “What Normal People Do,” takes time at developing not just Jimmy and Gretchen, but Edgar and Lindsay as well.  The very title of the episode goes against almost everything we see play out.

What Normal People Do- Veterans' discount

So we begin with Jimmy wearing Edgar’s uniform without his permission.  This probably wouldn’t be a big deal if Jimmy only wore it around the house, but it turns out that Jimmy used it to get a veterans’ discount at a local restaurant.  More aghast at this, however, is Gretchen for not being invited to breakfast.  She appears miffed, which is strange, given how she just neglected to invite Jimmy to her own birthday celebration.  What’s more, Jimmy doesn’t think it a giant deal, even when Gretchen says that the ‘thing’ between them could end as soon as tomorrow.

In fact, he’s so focused on the game that he doesn’t give Edgar the time of day when Edgar wants to talk about the war.  Gretchen, trying to be a normal person, does try to listen, but stops the second that Edgar talked about his team finding four stray dogs fighting over a dead body.  I can’t say that I blame her.

What Normal People Do- Lindsay tells Honey Nutz and Shit Stain that Paul isn't an ass man

Lindsay’s subplot deals with her image and what she feels people think of her.  She recently got her jaw wired shut because she’s trying to avoid putting anything bad in it, much to the surprise of Honey Nutz and Shit Stain.  Despite Lindsay’s huge mouth, Paul only likes handjobs.  Even if Lindsay manages to bring her weight under control, her ass would shrink, but Paul, surprisingly, is not an ass man.  So, the two aspiring rappers wonder, why would someone buy a car if he didn’t even appreciate the features?  We’ll return to this towards the end.

What Normal People Do- Sam talks about how dating can be scary for women

Gretchen’s plot point also kicks off here, as Sam needs to attract some media coverage that will feature his house.  Why?  Sam wants his house to deliver pussy to him.  He knows that dating is scary for women because they can’t force men who live in fancy houses to visit them.  If a woman declines an offer to come over, but instead wants the man to come to her place, the guy won’t do it because he can stay at his place and be comfortable.

For some women, he says, a pussy can be a dine-in only joint.  No one would come and the woman in question would have to offer Groupons or have gatherings and parties to get people to join in.  This, somehow, strikes a nerve with Gretchen, as we’ve only seen her at Jimmy’s place, not the other way around.  She wonders, could she be a dine-in pussy, having to put out in order to get Jimmy to come over?  Up until now, she’s never had to think about it since she and Jimmy just went with the flow.  But, if the opportunity presented itself, would Jimmy even want to come to her place?  She’s knows that he’s selfish enough to put his needs ahead of anything else.

What Normal People Do- Edgar talks about war

Edgar, meanwhile, helps kick off a commemoration for war veterans and expects the audience to behave like normal people and honor his effort.  However, Edgar acknowledges that he himself is not normal.  It’s hard for him and countless other soldiers and veterans alike to readjust to society.  It’s a genuine moment for Edgar to tell his story to what he hopes are willing listeners, but once he gets deep into his tale, the crowd turns its attention to the band.  Why?  They’re more high octane and energetic than some sad old veteran.

What Normal People Do- Gretchen invites Jimmy to her place

Since Jimmy and Gretchen don’t have high priorities in their daily lives, they spend it day drinking.  Gretchen throws out the idea of them going to her place, which Jimmy isn’t really up for since they’d always gone to his place.  They aren’t far along in this ‘thing’ they have, but each evening they’ve spent together has been at Jimmy’s.  Gretchen wants to shake things up.  Jimmy admits that he’s too self-absorbed to change, but he’s willing to give it a shot for her.  For a thing that could end tomorrow, as Gretchen says, she sure gets a lot of work out of Jimmy, and Jimmy is willing to compromise.

What Normal People Do- Gretchen's messy home

The problem is that Gretchen’s apartment is a shithole, but she gives zero fucks about that because it’s her place.  Jimmy, however, is completely aghast at the messy refrigerator, living room, unfinished food decorating the table, just about everything in Gretchen’s place Jimmy finds fault with.  And he’s not doing to get back at Gretchen for anything she said- he legitimately is horrified by what he’s seen.  Gretchen doesn’t even have a television.  That isn’t too strange, but it is when Jimmy points out that Gretchen doesn’t really watch television, as she says, but just watches programs on a computer.  That’s not watching TV, though they end up not watching because Gretchen gets a porn virus.

What Normal People Do- Edgar meets other soldiers

Back with Edgar, he manages to meet with soldiers who he believes have stories like him.  He’s finally found a group of people to relate to, but it turns out that they’re just prepping for a film they’ve been making.  Whoops.

What Normal People Do- Jimmy and Gretchen in bed while others argue

We return to Gretchen, who admits to Jimmy that yes, her place isn’t great, but it’s still her home and doesn’t feel she needs to change anything, which sort of contradicts her telling Jimmy to change for her sake, but we’ll get to that in a second.  This kicks off a conversation over who is leaving and why.  Ordinarily, we’d just expect Jimmy to leave due to their argument and think no more of it, but Jimmy isn’t having that.

No, Jimmy feels he should stay, though he and Gretchen think about this much longer than usual.  Gretchen tells Jimmy to not invent her wanting to go as a smokescreen for him wanting to leave.  She won’t make him stay, but Jimmy now says that Gretchen is kicking him out.  For a pair of people who recognize that what they have can end any time, they spend a considerable amount of time over how and why Jimmy has to leave.

What Normal People Do- Lindsay shows Edgar her ass

Lindsay and Edgar finally meet up after Lindsay has Edgar examine her ass.  He’s not falling over for it like most men probably would, but he does say that the size of her ass does not define her.  It’s one of the most honest things that she’s heard all day, and it comes from someone who isn’t even that into her in that way.  So why is Edgar outside anyway?  He wanted to score some heroin, but had second thoughts.  He has a third thought when Lindsay offers.

What Normal People Do- Pizza guy delivers happiness

With Jimmy gone, Gretchen goes back to lounging by herself, but has quite the revealing conversation with the jovial pizza man.  He’s not in the most revered of jobs, but he’s happy because he gets to just drive around with pizza.  If he gets bored, he’ll pull over, eat a pizza, and just say he’s been robbed.  He has no real aspirations and is fine where he is.  Just Gretchen’s idea about having his own place gets him excited…until he realizes that would involve too much, and you can’t have anything ruining your flow.

The B story with Lindsay and Edgar continues with Edgar managing to remove Lindsay’s wiring.  The two accept that they’re perceived strangely by other people because Edgar is too obsessed with talking about war when he doesn’t need to be, and Lindsay is obsessed with how other people thinks she looks.  Edgar, the honest man that he is, calls Lindsay a free loving sort of person who should be happy with who she is.

What Normal People Do- Jimmy and Gretchen make up

In the end, Jimmy and Gretchen also arrive at their own conclusions when they accept that they’re set in their own ways and prefer things on their terms.  In effect, they haven’t learned a thing.  It took a day for them to just go with what they already knew, but they have realized that they need to stop comparing themselves to normal people since they’re beyond normal.  After all, if they’re comfortable with who they are, there should be no reason to want to be normal.

Once again, Jimmy and Gretchen arrive at a fairly simple conclusion, but what makes this effective in my eyes is that they stay right where they are.  Sure, some would call that a lack of character development, but what makes this work is that they were willing to take a chance.

What Normal People Do- Gretchen tells Jimmy that he needs to change

The problem is that Jimmy and Gretchen aren’t used to change just yet.  It’s the same reason they refuse to say that they’re in a relationship, but continue referring to it as “it.”  Jimmy and Gretchen see themselves as rational compared to everyone else, but society would see them as abnormal, strange, and, Becca says, poison.  They take pride in that, though.  Jimmy happily accepts it when Gretchen says that he wants things on his own terms, and Gretchen admits this only after she tries to invite Jimmy over.

Having never been in a relationship, I can only assume that the parties involved eventually go through some form of change instead of both staying the same.  It would be too easy for everyone to just go about their business without compromise- which Jimmy does decide to do when he apologizes to Gretchen for not inviting her to breakfast.  It’s no problem if they’re comfortable with who they are, but, like Gretchen says, that self-awareness means nothing if they don’t change it.  What makes this complicated is that they don’t want to change, and it took Jimmy deriding Gretchen’s living space for Gretchen to arrive at this conclusion.

Gretchen doesn’t want to be the type of woman who never has men visit her, but that’s because she’s spent all this time considering Sam’s words about women who have to force people to visit them.  She bluntly tells Jimmy that “I need you to come eat me out at my apartment,” but that ends up being a disaster.  She sees no issue with her home because it’s her space.  She sees no need to change things up, which is exactly what she’s asking Jimmy to do.

As with this thing that the two have, Jimmy and Gretchen are afraid of change because they’d be turning into the very people that they ridicule for going by traditional romantic standards, which the two desperately want to avoid.  It’s what makes their argument about being kicked out stand out more because if Jimmy is going to leave, why put so much thought into why he’s leaving when they already both know that he thinks Gretchen’s place is a dump?  It wouldn’t matter if he left of his own accord or Gretchen kicked him out, but they make it a bigger deal than necessary.  But, again, Jimmy and Gretchen are not normal people.  Like the pizza man, they’d rather go through life the way things are instead of potentially putting in work for something worthwhile than their current lots in life.

What Normal People Do- Edgar meets another soldier

Even the lives these ‘veterans’ live are all lies because they’re more interested in fame.  They take advantage of Edgar because he’s gullible enough to believe they’re actual soldiers, but also because he’s in a vulnerable state and wants someone to hear him out.

What Normal People- Autograph in the valley

We have a real chance to explore Edgar’s psychology and what he’s feeling when he has dreams about combat, but it’s spoiled when others try to take advantage of his story.  Though, I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t fun to watch Edgar slowly figure it out, especially when one of the veterans showed that he wasn’t an amputee when two women offered him a chance to sign his name between their breasts.  It’d be hard to turn that down, really.

What Normal People Do- Edgar removes Lindsay's wires

Though Jimmy and Gretchen don’t have any sort of change by episode’s end, Lindsay and Edgar end up realizing that they don’t need to try and act out to win friends.  They just need to realize that they’re fine just the way they are.  Lindsay only has an image issue because she feels she needs other people’s validation.  Edgar, straightforward as he is, tells her that she should be happy with her body.

What Normal People Do- Edgar calls Lindsay pretty

I haven’t said much about the performance behind the character, but Kether Donohue is just damn gorgeous and sweet as Lindsay.  For the record, the fact that she’s big doesn’t make her any less attractive and though Paul would be lucky to even have her, he also deserves someone more faithful, as we’ll see.  Hell, I think the fact that she’s a larger woman makes her even more attractive.

As much as I like Aya Cash, I think I may prefer Kether Donohue just a bit more, but they’re both great in their roles.  Honey Nutz and Shit Stain probably could have picked a better comparison for Lindsay besides a car, but the meaning is still there: why commit to someone in your life if you’re always trying to change them?  Paul, in their minds, should appreciate what Lindsay has instead of trying to change her into something she’s not.  This is what Gretchen tries to do with Jimmy, but realizes that she’s just as unflinching as she is.

So all in all, “What Normal People Do,” didn’t so much advance storylines as much as it did confirm what our characters have already known: they need to accept who they are and spend less time worrying what everyone else thinks of them.  And luckily, these lessons don’t come from some character oozing with sage-like wisdom.  It’s nothing grandiose or some life-shattering lesson, but I enjoyed it: simple and practical lesson at the same time.  Now, if Gretchen would just tidy up a bit, we can get somewhere, like the next episode.